How to Survive a Break-up

As usual I have nothing to do at work again. So I was browsing the net & found this interesting topic. I didn't read the book/article though. Thought I'd have my own take on this.

1. Be real.

C'mon dude. I never believed that you can have a break-up w/o hard feelings. Be real. If you hate him then hate him. Do not hold it back. Do not pretend, not just to other people but most especially yourself, that it's ok. Don't pretend you are friends. Don't try to be nice. Be honest. Don't be fake. Why? This will ensure that all your feelings are brought out in the open. This is a way for you to get over these awful feelings, to not pretend they don't exist.

2. Do not expect.

Think it's over. Believe it's over. He's not a part of your life anymore. He's a nobody. Do not compare your life to his life. Do not relate anything to him. He's a stranger.

3. Do not be friends w/ him.

This will help you a great deal so stop being nice. Tell him directly you don't want to have any contact w/ him anymore. Do not think about what he will feel. Think of yourself. Think how much easier you'll get over him when he is not present in your life.

4. Beware of rebounds.

Do not get into a new relationship for the wrong reasons. And you know what these reasons are. Do not use another guy to fill your loneliness, man-dependency, ego, pride, etc.. Date around but do not settle for another jerk just because of a past jerk.

So there, parang bitin noh? But I can't think of anything else. I believe these cover everything anyways ;)

Love on the Rebound

I have 2 friends, a guy & a girl, who both had very bad experiences on love.

Guy

1. Left his 1st girlfriend of roughly 7 years for another girl.
2. This 2nd gf had an affair w/ 2 other guys.
3. The 2nd guy this 2nd gf had an affair w/ was married & has a kid.
4. My guy friend keeps on accepting his 2nd gf no matter what but 2nd gf doesn't want him anymore, she would rather be w/ his 2nd affair relationship (the married man w/ a kid).

Girl

1. Bf from the same office had 1st affair.
2. The affair led her to have an affair of her own w/ a 'taken' guy from the same office.
3. Affair on #2, caught by legal gf while making out, or maybe doing something else, at a mall carpark.
4. Girl went back to original bf.
5. Bf had an affair again & again on the same office.
6. Latest affair relationship, in the same office, continued & guy left girl. He ended up getting the other girl pregnant & married her instead.

Their latest love problems happened at the same time. Then, they started a relationship together. I was just so stunned. Rebound, rebound.

After a year they got enganged. Still, I can't imagine them together, being 'barkadas' before.

After another year they got married.

For some reason I found several websites yesterday about their wedding, post-wedding adventures, etc.. They seem happy.

Maybe rebound works, it does for basketball anyways...